Archive for polyamory

Using Open Relationships as a Cure for Jealousy

Posted in Dating, Polyamory with tags , , , , on September 25, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen people try to use open relationships to fix things. I can tell you how many times I’ve seen it work though. That number is zero.

Open relationships are hard work. They require an unprecedented amount of trust in both your part and your relationship, communication, and willingness to deal with unpleasant emotions. Opening a relationship to solve problems is inherently flawed. Let’s think about it for a moment. You know that your relationship is already having trouble, from jealousy or any other problem, rather than try to work through the problem, you choose to open the relationship. What have you just done? Read more »

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Why enter a polyamorous relationship?

Posted in Dating, Polyamory with tags , , on March 30, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

So, in continuation of my series on polyamory, today I want to address some reasons that people might enter a polyamorous relationship. This is not meant to be a conclusive list, but rather to give an idea of why someone might choose this lifestyle. In reality, the reasons for entering such a relationship are as varied as the different types of set ups and even as the people people within the relationships. Read more »

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The Art of Opening up a Relationship

Posted in Communication, Dating, Polyamory with tags , , , on November 12, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

So, you’re thinking about an open relationship. Well good for you. Open relationships can be very rewarding, not to mention fun and exciting but they don’t happen without a lot of work. There are many techniques that you can implement in order to give them a better chance of succeeding though and that’s what we’re going to discuss here today. Read more »

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Living a Double Life

Posted in Dating, Polyamory with tags , , on November 6, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

I am proud of who I am. I am polyamorous, kinky, and happy but in the real world, this can be a dangerous combination. My generation has made great strides towards tolerance and acceptance, especially on the topic of homosexuality. In the United States, for the first time in recorded history, more than 50% of people believe that gay marriage should be legal! Sadly the same gains have not been made in the other alternative sexualities, making many of us partaking in them having to hide part of ourselves from other people. Read more »

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Polyamory: a basic introduction to why humans aren’t monogamous

Posted in Dating, Polyamory, Sex with tags , , , on October 31, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

I hope that this will be the beginning of a series of posts on polyamory. It is perhaps one of the most misunderstood concepts about sexuality today. I will not pretend to be an expert on the subject but I am going to start where I do have some knowledge. This post is going to be a quick look at polyamory through a semi-scientific lens. I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Read more »

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The Ethical Slut Book Review

Posted in Book Reviews with tags , , on October 20, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy came to me highly recommended by a friend when I started getting interested in having an open relationship, and for good reason. This book is a wonderful starting point for those interested in polyamory at all. Easton and Hardy write in a frank, easy to understand tone that suits the topic perfectly. The book is separated into “parts” and then each part is broken down into chapters.

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