Have you ever noticed that we’re taught that we’re supposed to wait until we’re married to have sex and after marriage, the running joke is that no one has sex anymore? A 2001 survey conducted by Durex suggested that unmarried couples have sex an average of 146 times per year, while married couples have sex only 98 times per year. Clearly, after marriage sex becomes less of a priority. Today I want to talk about why it’s important to keep your sex life active, even after you say “I do”. Read more »
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The Importance of Sex in a Relationship
Posted in Dating, Sex with tags dating, relationships, sex on January 6, 2012 by TarnishedHaloBreaking Up is Hard to Do
Posted in Dating with tags break ups, dating on December 7, 2011 by TarnishedHaloBreak ups suck. No one will deny that, but it is something that almost everyone has lived through, will live through, or will have to do sometime in their lives. People will tell you it’s better to do the dumping than it is to get dumped, but having dealt with both, I think both ends of the spectrum are as equally unpleasant. If you are getting broken up with there are usually feelings of hurt and betrayal, and yes it is common to feel embarrassment as well. When you are doing the dumping, most people want to avoid hurt feelings, and don’t want to see the person that they probably still care about at least a little bit, upset. I want to talk a bit about how to make them a little bit easier on everyone. Some of these techniques may or may not help in a particular situation, but they are some ideas to help you get started. Read more »
My Story
Posted in Dating, Personal, Polyamory, Sex with tags dating, sex, story on November 13, 2011 by TarnishedHaloI decided today that I want to share with all of you how I came to be who I am today. I did not start out sex positive in my life, quite the opposite in fact. I was raised by a very conservative Catholic family in a very conservative part of the country. I even went to Catholic school for more than half of my years in school. I believed that I was not going to do anything beyond kiss my boyfriend until I got married, and I actually believed this through my first year of college. Read more »
On making mistakes, making up, and being human
Posted in Communication, Dating with tags communication, dating, mistakes on November 8, 2011 by TarnishedHaloI was looking for a new topic to write about today and I had a friend come to me with the following story. Sometimes, good topics really do just fall into your lap. Every relationship has problems and every person makes mistakes. We’re human, and far from perfect. What makes a relationship successful or causes its end is how we deal with the problems within it. I want to tell you my friend’s story. This is perhaps one of the best examples of dealing with making a mistake in a relationship I’ve ever seen. Read more »
Polyamory: a basic introduction to why humans aren’t monogamous
Posted in Dating, Polyamory, Sex with tags dating, nonmonogamy, polyamory, sex on October 31, 2011 by TarnishedHaloI hope that this will be the beginning of a series of posts on polyamory. It is perhaps one of the most misunderstood concepts about sexuality today. I will not pretend to be an expert on the subject but I am going to start where I do have some knowledge. This post is going to be a quick look at polyamory through a semi-scientific lens. I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Read more »