Why Our Obsession with Dating is Hurting Our Relationships

Posted in Dating with tags , , on March 1, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

From the time we hit high school, and sometimes even sooner, we start dating. Then we continue to date until we find that one person that is our “other half” or “the one” or whatever you want to call them. Dating is a wonderful experience and can be extremely fulfilling, but the obsession that we have with it is harming our relationships in more ways than one. Read more »

Sex and Shame

Posted in Polyamory, Sex with tags , , , on February 25, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

I grew up in a Catholic family. Shame wasn’t just something that we were supposed to feel when we did something wrong. Shame was a way of life and in no larger capacity than when is comes to sex. Unfortunately this is how most people are raised. We’re taught that talking about sex is bad and having sex, although necessary, is something dirty, unspeakable, and most of all shameful. Read more »

What do I get out of submission?

Posted in Dominance/submission, Kink, Personal, Sex with tags , , , on February 16, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

I have made no secret about being in a relationship that includes a certain amount of power exchange. I am a submissive woman. People have asked me why more times than I can count now. Now, I don’t presume to speak for every submissive, in fact, the only person that I speak for in this post is myself, but it’s something that I want to answer.

Submission is the act of giving a specified amount of control of your life over to someone else. This can be everything from just letting them tell you what they want you to do in the bedroom, all the way to giving them complete control over most aspects of your life. On the spectrum, I fall closer to the conservative end. My partner has a certain say so over what I can and cannot do, but I also have a significant amount of autonomy and there are certain things that I would never give someone else to control. Read more »

Birth Control Myths Demystified

Posted in Birth Control, Safety, Sex with tags , , , , , , on February 8, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

So I had two separate discussions recently that have inspired me to write on a topic that didn’t seem to me to be of much importance. After all, everyone knows about birth control: risks, options, and efficacy, right? Apparently not. In fact, much of the “information” that I hear about it is not only wrong, but is dangerously scaring young women (and men) to forego birth control because of perceived risks that are not supported by fact, so for today we’re going to talk about some myths related to birth control. Read more »

Susan G Komen Foundation and Planned Parenthood

Posted in Current Events with tags , , , on February 3, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past week, you have most certainly heard about the Komen Foundation deciding to pull funding from Planned Parenthood. This money was used to detect breast cancer, especially in women that are uninsured or underinsured. The backlash by the American people has been astounding. The Komen Foundation seemed to think so too as they have decided to reinstate the funding. Read more »

ShibariCon or Why everyone should go to a convention

Posted in Kink, Personal with tags , , on January 29, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

Yes, I am going to write a post about a convention or “con”. I never saw myself going to a convention, let alone a convention about kinky sex. Seriously, who does that? Apparently I do, and let me tell you, it was by far one of the greatest experiences of my life.

For those of you who don’t know, ShibariCon is a convention held over Memorial Day Weekend (yes, four whole days [and nights] of fun) devoted entirely to the kink revolving around rope bondage, most specifically targeting Japanese rope bondage (Shibari or Kinbaku), although I did see some Western Style during the late night parties. Read more »

Great Blog from a Great Rope Artist

Posted in Uncategorized on January 29, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

Hey all,

Just wanted to point you in the direction of a great blog, especially if you have any interest in rope art. Written by Wykd_Dave, this blog is a rope Top’s thoughts on rope, life, and other things. I strongly recommend you check it out.

WkyD.com

Erotic Spanking

Posted in Communication, Kink, Personal with tags , , on January 25, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

How many of you have ever smacked your partner’s ass during sex? How many of you have thought about it? Erotic spanking is one of the most common kinks in the world. Why? You ask. Well that’s what we’re here to talk about today. Read more »

Short Hiatus

Posted in Uncategorized on January 12, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

Hey all,

I’m going to have to take a short break from writing (like another week or so). School with my work is really kicking my butt, but one of my jobs ends next week so I’m hoping to squeeze in a little time to write after that. I would love to hear some ideas for articles in the comments section.

Love,

Tarnished

Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land by Douglas Kent Book Review

Posted in Book Reviews, Kink, Safety with tags , , , on January 8, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

I’ve decided that the time is right for another book review. This time I’m going to review a book that has become and invaluable resource for my partner and I when learning to use rope. Even after a good chunk of time working with rope and moving on to more difficult ties, we still refer to this book on a frequent basis because it is simply that good. Douglas Kent’s Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land is one of the best books for those interested in learning to tie Japanese style rope that has ever been written. Read more »