I decided today that I want to share with all of you how I came to be who I am today. I did not start out sex positive in my life, quite the opposite in fact. I was raised by a very conservative Catholic family in a very conservative part of the country. I even went to Catholic school for more than half of my years in school. I believed that I was not going to do anything beyond kiss my boyfriend until I got married, and I actually believed this through my first year of college. Read more »
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My Story
Posted in Dating, Personal, Polyamory, Sex with tags dating, sex, story on November 13, 2011 by TarnishedHaloBringing Toys into the Bedroom
Posted in Sex with tags kink, sex, toys on November 3, 2011 by TarnishedHaloMany couples get stuck in ruts in their relationship. One or both of them begins to get bored with their sex life and sometimes they stop having sex all together. Toys in the bedroom can be a great way to spice up your sex life. There are tons of toys made for couples that can even be used during intercourse. Read more »
Fake Orgasms
Posted in Communication, Dating, Sex with tags communication, orgasms, sex on November 2, 2011 by TarnishedHaloLet’s start with a story. Mary meets Jim. They hit it off immediately. They go on a few dates and decide they want to have sex. They have fun, but Jim just isn’t doing what Mary needs in order to orgasm. They continue for awhile. Mary sees that Jim is starting to get frustrated and tired. She doesn’t want to hurt his feelings, so she decides to do what many women (and sometimes men) do and she has a fake orgasm, screaming and the whole nine yards. Jim seems pleased with himself and allows himself to finish. They spend the night together. Jim and Mary have sex again. Jim does all of the same things and Mary doesn’t orgasm. She sees him getting frustrated, so she fakes another orgasm. This continues for a number of dates and finally Mary breaks up with Jim. Jim is hurt and confused. Unfortunately, this situation is far more common than anyone would like to admit, so let’s talk about fake orgasms. Read more »
Polyamory: a basic introduction to why humans aren’t monogamous
Posted in Dating, Polyamory, Sex with tags dating, nonmonogamy, polyamory, sex on October 31, 2011 by TarnishedHaloI hope that this will be the beginning of a series of posts on polyamory. It is perhaps one of the most misunderstood concepts about sexuality today. I will not pretend to be an expert on the subject but I am going to start where I do have some knowledge. This post is going to be a quick look at polyamory through a semi-scientific lens. I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Read more »
Masturbation – It’s actually good for you
Posted in Sex with tags masturbation, myths, sex on October 24, 2011 by TarnishedHaloIf you touch yourself there, you’ll go blind. Masturbation will give you acne. Masturbation makes hair grow on your palms. People in relationships don’t need to masturbate unless the relationship is going bad. Only men feel the urge to masturbate. Masturbation leads to psychological problems. The myths about masturbation are almost endless. Society has taught us that masturbation is something dirty, dangerous, and something that needs to be hidden from everyone else. Read more »