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What do I get out of submission?

Posted in Dominance/submission, Kink, Personal, Sex with tags , , , on February 16, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

I have made no secret about being in a relationship that includes a certain amount of power exchange. I am a submissive woman. People have asked me why more times than I can count now. Now, I don’t presume to speak for every submissive, in fact, the only person that I speak for in this post is myself, but it’s something that I want to answer.

Submission is the act of giving a specified amount of control of your life over to someone else. This can be everything from just letting them tell you what they want you to do in the bedroom, all the way to giving them complete control over most aspects of your life. On the spectrum, I fall closer to the conservative end. My partner has a certain say so over what I can and cannot do, but I also have a significant amount of autonomy and there are certain things that I would never give someone else to control. Read more »

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Birth Control Myths Demystified

Posted in Birth Control, Safety, Sex with tags , , , , , , on February 8, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

So I had two separate discussions recently that have inspired me to write on a topic that didn’t seem to me to be of much importance. After all, everyone knows about birth control: risks, options, and efficacy, right? Apparently not. In fact, much of the “information” that I hear about it is not only wrong, but is dangerously scaring young women (and men) to forego birth control because of perceived risks that are not supported by fact, so for today we’re going to talk about some myths related to birth control. Read more »

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The Importance of Sex in a Relationship

Posted in Dating, Sex with tags , , on January 6, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

Have you ever noticed that we’re taught that we’re supposed to wait until we’re married to have sex and after marriage, the running joke is that no one has sex anymore? A 2001 survey conducted by Durex suggested that unmarried couples have sex an average of 146 times per year, while married couples have sex only 98 times per year. Clearly, after marriage sex becomes less of a priority. Today I want to talk about why it’s important to keep your sex life active, even after you say “I do”. Read more »

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Sensory Deprivation

Posted in Kink, Sex with tags , , on December 31, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

Have you ever wondered why people use blindfolds in the bedroom? Sensory deprivation is an entire category of kinks but is very easily incorporated into a vanilla relationship. Even something as simple as a blindfold can add a whole new dimension to your sex life. It can be erotic, terrifying, and exciting all at the same time. Let’s talk about how. Read more »

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Things “Good Girls” Don’t Do…and why they should

Posted in Communication, Dating, Safety, Sex with tags , , on December 26, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

Have you ever sat down and thought about all of the things that make “bad girls” bad? I’m going to guess not, but if I were to bring up some of these following suggestions to you, you would tell me that those aren’t things that “good girls” do. I’m here to tell you why you should drop that mentality and need to try some of these things (or all of them, if you’re feeling adventurous). Read more »

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Icicles No. 24 Toy Review

Posted in Sex, Toy Review with tags on December 17, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

I’ve come across another toy that is finally worth reviewing here. Icicles No. 24 is a glass dildo made by Pipedream. It has one of the most unique shapes that I have ever found but definitely caused a bit of a laugh between my partner and I. This toy is all about texture and it certainly doesn’t let you down on that front. Read more »

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Relationship Breath Mints: Keeping a Relationship Fresh

Posted in Communication, Dating, Sex with tags on December 16, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

Do you remember how you felt at the very beginning of your relationship? That time when you were trying to impress your partner, when you bought them flowers or cooked them dinner? How often do you get that feeling six months into the relationship? Probably not as often anymore. We’re all guilty of it. We become comfortable in our relationships and stop trying. For some reason we forget that the person they fell in love with was the one from the beginning of the relationship. I have good news for you though, it’s easy to get that excitement back. We’re going to talk about some ways to put that spice from the beginning back into the relationship. And since we all know today’s economy is in the, well you know what, we’re going to go with ways that won’t clean out your bank account. Read more »

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Sucking Cock. I promise it’s not as icky as you think.

Posted in Sex with tags , , on December 10, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

So this post is by special request of one of my very best friends. We were talking and she asked one day how anyone can enjoy giving oral sex. So I promised that I would write about it for her. Here it is, darlin. Yes, I know it’s a few days later than promised. Life got in the way. Side note: I am definitely writing this from the perspective of a woman giving oral sex to a man. I used to think that the idea of giving oral sex to a man was not only gross but degrading to women, until I tried it. I’ve learned a lot since then and have become quite proud of how far I’ve come, ask either of my partners and they’ll be happy to tell you. Read more »

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Why Abstinance-Only Programs Don’t Work in Schools and a proposal for a new program

Posted in Sex with tags , on November 16, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

The Federal Government has had extra funding for schools that teach sexuality from the abstinence only until marriage. Half of the states in the country have rejected this funding and for good reason. Abstinence only programs, not only don’t work, but tend to do far more harm than good on the youth. Today we’re going to chat about why these probrams are a problem and I intend to propose a new model of teaching sexual education to minors. Read more »

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My Story

Posted in Dating, Personal, Polyamory, Sex with tags , , on November 13, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

I decided today that I want to share with all of you how I came to be who I am today. I did not start out sex positive in my life, quite the opposite in fact. I was raised by a very conservative Catholic family in a very conservative part of the country. I even went to Catholic school for more than half of my years in school. I believed that I was not going to do anything beyond kiss my boyfriend until I got married, and I actually believed this through my first year of college. Read more »

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