Archive for the Personal Category

What do I get out of submission?

Posted in Dominance/submission, Kink, Personal, Sex with tags , , , on February 16, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

I have made no secret about being in a relationship that includes a certain amount of power exchange. I am a submissive woman. People have asked me why more times than I can count now. Now, I don’t presume to speak for every submissive, in fact, the only person that I speak for in this post is myself, but it’s something that I want to answer.

Submission is the act of giving a specified amount of control of your life over to someone else. This can be everything from just letting them tell you what they want you to do in the bedroom, all the way to giving them complete control over most aspects of your life. On the spectrum, I fall closer to the conservative end. My partner has a certain say so over what I can and cannot do, but I also have a significant amount of autonomy and there are certain things that I would never give someone else to control. Read more »

ShibariCon or Why everyone should go to a convention

Posted in Kink, Personal with tags , , on January 29, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

Yes, I am going to write a post about a convention or “con”. I never saw myself going to a convention, let alone a convention about kinky sex. Seriously, who does that? Apparently I do, and let me tell you, it was by far one of the greatest experiences of my life.

For those of you who don’t know, ShibariCon is a convention held over Memorial Day Weekend (yes, four whole days [and nights] of fun) devoted entirely to the kink revolving around rope bondage, most specifically targeting Japanese rope bondage (Shibari or Kinbaku), although I did see some Western Style during the late night parties. Read more »

Erotic Spanking

Posted in Communication, Kink, Personal with tags , , on January 25, 2012 by TarnishedHalo

How many of you have ever smacked your partner’s ass during sex? How many of you have thought about it? Erotic spanking is one of the most common kinks in the world. Why? You ask. Well that’s what we’re here to talk about today. Read more »

Happy Thanksgiving

Posted in Personal with tags on November 24, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

Today I want to give thanks to everyone in my life that has helped me grow into the person I am today. Without all of you, this website would certainly not be possible and I would still be the naive young woman that I was. I appreciate all of the experiences you’ve given me, all of the advice you’ve shared, and all of the times you’ve just listened to me as I struggled to come into who I am today. Thank you everyone.

Why Rope?

Posted in Kink, Personal with tags , , on November 21, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

I will be the first person to tell you that I am a complete and total rope-slut. The feeling of being bound and helpless is one of the biggest turn-ons in the world to me. There are many types of bondage and each has its advantages and its disadvantages, but for me, rope is the best. There isn’t another form of bondage that I’ve tried that even comes close to matching rope and I want to talk about why.
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My Story

Posted in Dating, Personal, Polyamory, Sex with tags , , on November 13, 2011 by TarnishedHalo

I decided today that I want to share with all of you how I came to be who I am today. I did not start out sex positive in my life, quite the opposite in fact. I was raised by a very conservative Catholic family in a very conservative part of the country. I even went to Catholic school for more than half of my years in school. I believed that I was not going to do anything beyond kiss my boyfriend until I got married, and I actually believed this through my first year of college. Read more »