So, you’re thinking about an open relationship. Well good for you. Open relationships can be very rewarding, not to mention fun and exciting but they don’t happen without a lot of work. There are many techniques that you can implement in order to give them a better chance of succeeding though and that’s what we’re going to discuss here today. Read more »
Archive for the Dating Category
The Art of Opening up a Relationship
Posted in Communication, Dating, Polyamory with tags communication, how-to, open relationships, polyamory on November 12, 2011 by TarnishedHaloOn making mistakes, making up, and being human
Posted in Communication, Dating with tags communication, dating, mistakes on November 8, 2011 by TarnishedHaloI was looking for a new topic to write about today and I had a friend come to me with the following story. Sometimes, good topics really do just fall into your lap. Every relationship has problems and every person makes mistakes. We’re human, and far from perfect. What makes a relationship successful or causes its end is how we deal with the problems within it. I want to tell you my friend’s story. This is perhaps one of the best examples of dealing with making a mistake in a relationship I’ve ever seen. Read more »
Living a Double Life
Posted in Dating, Polyamory with tags kink, polyamory, relationships on November 6, 2011 by TarnishedHaloI am proud of who I am. I am polyamorous, kinky, and happy but in the real world, this can be a dangerous combination. My generation has made great strides towards tolerance and acceptance, especially on the topic of homosexuality. In the United States, for the first time in recorded history, more than 50% of people believe that gay marriage should be legal! Sadly the same gains have not been made in the other alternative sexualities, making many of us partaking in them having to hide part of ourselves from other people. Read more »
Fake Orgasms
Posted in Communication, Dating, Sex with tags communication, orgasms, sex on November 2, 2011 by TarnishedHaloLet’s start with a story. Mary meets Jim. They hit it off immediately. They go on a few dates and decide they want to have sex. They have fun, but Jim just isn’t doing what Mary needs in order to orgasm. They continue for awhile. Mary sees that Jim is starting to get frustrated and tired. She doesn’t want to hurt his feelings, so she decides to do what many women (and sometimes men) do and she has a fake orgasm, screaming and the whole nine yards. Jim seems pleased with himself and allows himself to finish. They spend the night together. Jim and Mary have sex again. Jim does all of the same things and Mary doesn’t orgasm. She sees him getting frustrated, so she fakes another orgasm. This continues for a number of dates and finally Mary breaks up with Jim. Jim is hurt and confused. Unfortunately, this situation is far more common than anyone would like to admit, so let’s talk about fake orgasms. Read more »
Polyamory: a basic introduction to why humans aren’t monogamous
Posted in Dating, Polyamory, Sex with tags dating, nonmonogamy, polyamory, sex on October 31, 2011 by TarnishedHaloI hope that this will be the beginning of a series of posts on polyamory. It is perhaps one of the most misunderstood concepts about sexuality today. I will not pretend to be an expert on the subject but I am going to start where I do have some knowledge. This post is going to be a quick look at polyamory through a semi-scientific lens. I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Read more »
First Dates – Not as bad as you think
Posted in Dating with tags communication, dates on October 25, 2011 by TarnishedHaloDating is a challenge at best and absolutely terrifying at its worst. From my personal experience, the first date is always the worst. There are built up nerves and expectations. There are so many questions. “How should I dress?” “Where should we go?” “What will we have to talk about?” The list goes on and on. While all of these concerns are valid, there are a number of techniques that you can use to make the first date just a little bit easier and definitely increase your odds of a second date. Read more »